I understand how you feel. My mom never hugged me, never said hello, never liked me as her own. I feel selfish to hate that she left me. Nikki Forrest August 14, 2020 at 6:55 am Reply. We were often thinking about the same things. Right now I’m just passing the hours listening to the crickets outside my window and waiting to get so tired I just pass out. My partner, who was all my joy and all my delight, gone. PLEASE LET ME KNOW THAT YOU ARE OKAY, AND ARE THINKING ABOUT ME TOO!! Leon. We were the most important person in the world to each other. Iâve lost both my parents and most of my family but this is the absolute worst. I said I was leaving school soon and we would see her at the hospital. I’m young but I have Something to say. Oh, I get up every day. It sounds like you have found yourself a good man. But I am. Currently, I grieve my brother-in-law, but more painful is witnessing the pain my sister and her children are going through in his loss. I lost my brother to suicide. I have an older son whom I love with all my heart but nothing fills the void in my heart. Wanda Gomez May 13, 2017 at 4:26 am Reply. Rosie Perez March 1, 2019 at 6:36 am Reply. Las Fowler November 30, 2016 at 8:03 pm Reply. People have a misconception that you can deal with it and say, âItâs gone, and Iâm betterâ. teachers are constantly one about “you can talk to us. Bless all our lost loves and us-I try to remember they don’t miss us-they don’t know why we are sad, all they know now is happiness and peace-they are with all our others we lost. But I still longed for a hug. We were happy in our way, when we lived just in the moment, In this world of our own. Both my parents were present when the suicide happened as it was just outside in the street in front of our home. It is rough when you need and want your Mom and she is not there. Now I’m mourning the loss of my Dad whilst trying to study fulltime and raise my 3 kids on my own. He was sick for a 6 years with horrid multiple myeloma but had been ok until just recently. It seems so empty. It is so sad to think a life passed and so much hurt and regret and endless questions still exist. Thank you Dee Randolph. I will pray for you and your daughter……Sincerely, Hope. Will it make you happy? Wake up each day and remember what you have that is still alive. Thank you & God bless. Let these grief quotes remind you that we all go through it but that we all handle the loss in our own way and in our own time. Munesh Chaudhary December 29, 2018 at 8:51 am Reply, N Augustin Susan April 14, 2016 at 12:52 pm Reply. My son, 31 years old. The firefighters found her right inside the front door when they broke in the door. Losing the only person that truly loved me has been difficult beyond measure. Poor dear lovely dad. My hope is that you'll find solace and some form of peace through these uplifting quotes about grief, the healing process, and the reality that this pain you are feeling also means that you were lucky enough to have love in your life. It breaks your heart and soul. Sorry on the loss of your dad and all the ways you wish it was different, Thank you for the quotes — My father died this morning and we were estranged on and off for years. My son was murdered one month ago today. The results were run out skin and mental fuzziness and lastly cravings for fatty foods. Before I was able to live and work and survive but now I feel alone without strength. I doubted he could understand me. I want him, I need him. The one and only thing that helped me was to stop thinking about living without her. Poems about Grief, Coping and Life After Loss. It seems that you take a step forward but then two steps backwards. I think it is amazing that the baby, now 7 remembers his papaw and often tells me that he misses him. My whole life was pretty bad but I knew then someday my mom would step up and do better. With all his injuries and knee not healed because of no family member cared to help. On arrival at the hospital I explained she needed rehydration and antibiotics and bowel evacuation and whilst they took an age to get it done it was like watering a plant. I truly worry I will have a mental breakdown if all that I am feeling does not get better. I suppose, having lost everyone else (all the grandparents, aunties and uncles, all, all were gone), made us greatly appreciate our time together. I was by his side as much as I could handle it but it was a Sunday (we had been in car n boat accidents and was always blessed) he was going with the owner and an eye doctor plus they had nitrox. My son was killed in a car accident on a country road, not striped, intense fog driving his 7 yr old to school. for me look into a mirror, say this to yourself, “your a gorgeous human being who was given the gift of life.” A hella bumpy road then in unprincipled, its called a adventure. Patricia L Getz August 1, 2018 at 7:53 pm Reply. I just read your comment in reply to another in reguard’s to grief. I am so lost and facing a future stolen without my husband, but there are good days – the kids and my dogs provide most of these – they make me smile. She loved me. But I am still here and holding on. Love and light. My grown son died 3 months ago, he would be 43 today. Meanwhile at weekends I consoled myself with my long walks and endless gardening on my hands and knees listening to the birds in the trees and wind through the woods by my cottage home. Robin Coulson April 30, 2019 at 10:30 am Reply. The lifting of oppressive weather started to help some, the lighter days, the warmer weather, but now the observance is here. QrCode de votre lien November 21, 2019 at 10:24 am Reply. I spoke with him at least 3 times a day… he was Mamma’s boy… and for the first year I would watch my phone waiting for him to call. She always called me “Prince”…”My King”…”Daddy”…never my name, never. She was a person who lit up rooms, immensely charismatic and funny and capable. I just dont think I’ became a better person. Good luck on your journey Kay. ‘They’ are absolutely correct. The only cure for grief is to grieve” Earl Grollman “Where there is sorrow there is holy ground.” Oscar Wilde “Everyone can master a grief but he that has it.” What helps one may not help another. I had never known sadness like this. Time does not heal the hurt but you talking with someone about your loss in time will. I keep thinking that it was all a mistake or a nightmare and that he is alive and well. Â© 2020 by Tango Media Corporation All Rights Reserved. I'm sorry. I will leave you with knowing their is way forward, upward and out of your sorrow. When I was eight I was taken away permanently and put into a foster home and then later adopted. She was revived 5 times from her home and to the time she died in the hospital 5 hours later. O Jody I read your life story and it absolutely broke my heart. He was a great fisherman, he was very well known in Pinellas County Fl, Bahamas, Dry Tortugus and private islands owned by the rich and famous. I’ll have to be strong for my husband too. I am not anyone to really give advice but I read this and felt compelled to write this to you. Thank you for your post on my post… Two years after my husband’s accident I am still on my way, with ups and downs. Kandi Valdez Turner November 27, 2018 at 5:45 pm Reply, I just read your comment about your mother. Me. I have been in a dark place since this all happened then 6 months later my niece also she was my best friend my sister and daughter all in one at 30 years old with a set of twins in her belly fell out and died out of nowhere its like how can this all happen in one year 6 months to be exact.. a year later I’m now diagnosed with congestive heart failure due to clogged arteries. People used to tell me it was “part of God’s Will” and other things. Here are 64 (Shhh! After 40 years of marriage, 5 children and 1 grand child- I know better. I feel the same. My greatest regret is not praising him enough for being such a great single father. . Iâm not that. I lost my mum last month and i’m thankful I was by her side until the end. Yep, its tough, but I’ve found it makes me more determined to succeed and the bonus is the distraction which gives me a little bit of relief from the absolute grief in my heart every day. Plus, to make things so much worse, the juniors in my school are making a float to be a memorial for him for homecoming. My partner was somehow less involved. You'll never be the same ââ and that's okay. Be thankful for the time you had with your son. Somehow he had made it to his bedroom. After a year, despite our long discussions and assurance to the contrary, he still didnât visit me, but there were work reasons and others relating to his parents that I could put his lack of visiting time down to. Therein do men from children nothing differ. I’ve lost friends because I don’t always handle my grief well; can’t always anticipate when its going to punch me between the eyes again. The way his eyes looked into mine I feel like such a letdown to him because he had always been able to count on me before. She was battling a silent fight (cervical cancer) but never once showed her torn spirit nor sought help (by way of open discussion, admission & seeking refuge, cultural, respect..) either thru me, or the other siblings. Alone at home along with the eerie silence after having her die in my arms just a few hours earlier became too much to bear and I just broke down and cried harder & longer than I ever remembered doing when suddenly my lovely cat came over to me and started licking my forehead. I just want to see her walk in the front door and hear her call my name – or leave messages saying ” well hello my dear”. The different I WANT is to drive to him after the service. They lived together like two tight partners. I would give anything to see him walk through that door again. The four days my daughter slept my daddy sat with me all night each night I was at the hospital. My 4 children and I are going through hell. It’s an unbearable pain. There are 312 grief-related words in total, with the top 5 most semantically related being sorrow, anxiety, heartache, sadness and pain.You can get the definition(s) of a word in the list below by … I will not kill myself, but each day I go through is a day without my son and it feels pointless. everyday I wake up and think of him ?? He was my friend’s son, but I had been a big part of his life from such a young age. ‘They’ say the loss of a child is the greatest grief of all. I too have teenagers to take care of and they help you cope – more’s to the point – get through each day because you just have to for them. I am a freshman and over the summer my cousin/best friend committed suicide and every night i cry about it. I am blessed to have 3 other children who I love deeply. All of us siblings are fighting, not speaking, it’s such a mess. We have all surely known someone who was grieving the loss of someone close to them, whether it be a parent, spouse, child, or friend. She had been going to the hospital to see and take care of her mom so much – who had just had a heart attack and then a blockage. But there is no such man; for, brother, men Can counsel and speak comfort to that grief Which they themselves not feel; but, tasting it, 25 Their counsel turns to passion, which before Would give preceptial medicine to rage, Fetter strong madness in a silken thread, Charm ache with air and agony with words. I lost my father 3 weeks ago and I’m just starting to understand my grief and where it will take me…, Cate M August 12, 2016 at 11:30 pm Reply. My darling mom passed away 9 days ago and wondering how i can ever smile again. Weâd climbed echelons together and had our days in the limelight but ultimately had each seen much disappointment and betrayal when weâd hoped, and invested time in others and the wider world. Whenever you think of your son, think that he is working in another country and he is happy, coz he is seeing you in so much pain and believe me it will hurt him more to be the reason for this pain. How scared she must have been. Knowing you gave your best is a blessing beyond comparison. Hello I read your post and it touched me. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Another word for grief. to who ever reads this. Nineteen years we buried Freddy and we have never really recovered. Required fields are marked *. It was his father’s mission in life he grow up here. Questioning even the life you have. It all seemed so trite and reductive we decided not to add to the noise. Guilt for not saying I love you the night before he died. Somehow he had made it to his bedroom. That was way back now in January 1991. Your definitely in my prayers, My wonderful twin brother passed away 9 months ago having lost his life to alcoholism . 1 week before she passed. But I guess there is some comfort, because I am no longer afraid of dying myself, just in case there is an After. His mom got there the same day and I knew although my son had just received papers she wa willing to let him have physical residence, after around 4 years beinh grandma/mom I not only lodt my son that day but our grandson would be miles away and our family would be limited on securing his welfare. Want so much to dream with them but can’t seem to or don’t remember if I did. I went on to have 3 beautiful exceptional girls & even with gifts of having them I would so much Love to be at peace. They will come back. There is a hole in my heart. He beat them to the top.) They were brothers. I had not planned to come across this page let alone read people’s comments on their own stories of grief but I thank God I did. I’m deeply sorry for you, can only relate and let you know you are not alone and life goes on but this is too early for you. With my girls came drugs as I couldn’t cope with losing a son & drugs numbed my terror of something happening to another child of mine. I will always remember her last text to me that day while I was in class. If you’re bereaved or if you know someone who is bereaved, Good Words for Grieving may help. Not even at Thanksgiving or Christmas. Adjectives for grief include griefful, griefless, grieflike, griefsome, grievesome, grievious, grievous, grievousest, griefed, griefing, grieved and grieving. Hitesh Mehta March 29, 2019 at 10:26 pm Reply. How will I go on? Tell them that they must all keep their brothers memory alive and put your pain and loss in an imaginary box and put it on a shelf. The quotes on here have helped me many times. Never really spoken of. The man I was referring to is still around and still in love with me but I am not fully ready yet, still need a lot of time on my own or with friends, trying to sort my internal mess out. Then …. Stop coming home high and to just settle down get a real job and just love us instead of yell and hit and throw. It can be challenging to find the right words to offer support, comfort, and empathy. You are gone for now but not forever. i love the messages…i have never felt anything more painful than grief. We were told by the doctor just 6 days ago that her test results showed she had stage 4 rectal cancer which had spread to both lungs, lymph nodes & stomach. priscilla December 17, 2018 at 10:10 pm Reply. The Best Things to Say to Someone in Grief. On some level we must have known these were the mast of days. It was so hard and heartbreaking. In the end, love is worth the pain you are experiencing. And I pray we will be allowed to have Freddy visit all of us here. I read so many comments here about difficulty moving on from a death and it pains my heart. I called and texted as I was leaving…nothing…. I didn’t even get to tell him i love him. Iâll wait like I have been but I wonât forget you. Nobody was interested what Iâd worn and still less wanted to hear the latest episode in all the small triumphs, disappointments, betrayals, hopes and dreams that only she knew. I was the “strong” one. Would it mean gaining or reducing your weight and after that being more active, physically or socially. He had been clean and relapsed. He died suddenly.I found him at the bottom of the stairs. She was taken to a better place at 10 pm that night. I talk to people. Using the word generator and word unscrambler for the letters G R I E F, we unscrambled the letters to create a list of all the words found in Scrabble, Words with Friends, and Text Twist. Even though she made mistakes when you were little it didnât mean she didnât love you. My children will never fully recover from this loss. Find a counselor to talk to. When she and I receive pictures of these children, we see Paul (son who died) looking back at us and saying “Thank You Moms”. Its not meant mean. cherish every second of your life as you will never know when it may end. It was a horrible, unexpected death from the flu complicated because he also had diabetes. I lost my husband just 2 weeks ago. I am on meds. I hear people mourn their one grief, or two, or three, but everybody seems to still have somebody, and somebodyâs everything. Today around 5:30 in the morning my mom passed away. Smile at a newly budding rose..its a spiritual thing ~ for there is bound to be something they touched, a silly remark/expression they say about your nose, ear, smile, eyes..something unusually unique & theirs alone, that they left behind that makes you put on a silent smile, every once in a awhile. I cannot find a happy place even though I should be the happiest mother out there for I have all five of my babies still but this has been a bit much and now my heart is giving up on me.. or is it me giving up i don’t know how to crawl out of this i wish i can wake up and it will all be over and be the happy momma i need to be.. thank u all for your sharing as i see I’m not alone in this dark cloud . I do think that happening and my illness (making me a hermit_in extreme pain-due to drug addicts causing my once amount of mednow cut in half which equals poor quality of life. My mother-in-law was my biggest fan, biggest supporter of this. I stayed those 4 days and nights with her in hospital advocating for her medication treatment to ensure her a comfortable dying process yet she still suffered because the staff there would not listen to me and instead of giving her strong meds immediately it took a little more than half of those 4 days until she started calming down & feeling comfortable as my continuing battle with the medical team finally listened to me. I had not planned to come across this page let alone read people’s comments on their own stories of grief but I thank God I did. I have 5 children from ages 27 to 9 and I feel so helpless with them I have been in a dark cloud I can’t seem to find my out of.. If it’s yes, then just go for it. Subscribe to stay up to date on all our posts. Lost my mom too. How hard to loose one’s confidant. Your story … is my story… and reading your words is like reading my mind. Please find below many ways to say grief in different languages. This grief bit isn’t for the weak at heart. We lived for each other. Linda Banks November 16, 2016 at 6:42 pm Reply. peachey January 4, 2020 at 10:53 am Reply. Every idea made will be documented for rebuilding our spiritual lives. One of my best friends died Monday night (July 31, 2018). At one point they said things had stopped growing so instead of waiting- they tell her its best to go on very strong caustic chemo to make sure it stays gone. No one would understand this. I have nightmares of her trying to make it out like she did. I just plain miss my boy. Send them a text or email with that quote. He was my firstborn child. I keep my husband near me, in my heart at all times and I know that as long as I remember him, he is with me. He was just 30 years old. I had found a beautiful song I’d never heard before about Jesus dying. Leaving you questioning everything that is on earth. This coincided with my mam being in her first respite care and, in my view, neglect (theyâd ignored my precise written health care and medication instructions ) leading to dehydration, kidney infection, pneumonia and hospital admission. All my family, gone. He was only two at the time his papaw passed away. My sons already suffered that. When a family loses a loved one, it is as if they have lost one of their limbs. Lots of prayers-she made it one year and the worst year I have ever seen anyone go through chemo. Jerry from Maine February 21, 2019 at 2:10 pm Reply. Even with all that in the final 24 hours she had one of the most heartbreaking struggles (My dad died of cancer in 2004 whom I also was in charge of his care and I have spent 20 years as a nurse and 5 of those years as a hospice nurse so I am comparing my moms struggle only to the people dying of cancer I personally witnessed & cared for) I had to see and care for. Susan, The opening of your heart and sharing of the sadness it has endured is incredible. He went out lots. I am a mother and these things just touch me in a different way because of that. Bless all our lost loves and us-I try to remember they don’t miss us-they don’t know why we are sad, all they know now is happiness and peace-they are with all our others we lost. My mother-in-law died tragically 4 months ago and everyday seems to get worse.